“Let yourself be silently drawn by the strange pull of what you really love. It will not lead you astray.”
Rumi” from Goodreads.com
“Can you coax the mind from its wandering
And keep to the original oneness?
Can you let your body become
supple as a newborn child’s?
Can you cleanse your inner vision
until you see nothing but the light?…”
“…Can you deal with the most vital matters
by letting events take their course?
Can you step back from your own mind
and thus understand all things?…”
The Tao Te Ching, Aphorism 10, by Lao-Tzu translation by S. Mitchell from the Taoteching.com
As we begin another year many of us take time for an annual re-assessment of our lives and selves and decide something needs to change.
There can be practical use in this as sometimes our choices and habits creep up on us and lead us into health problems or other concerns. in other cases marshaling attention and resources through this method can help us re-commit to attain our goals in a focused way.
Skillful self awareness may help us make course corrections and adjustments in our journey toward whatever does present itself through this self-inquiry.
Whether you do formal resolutions or not, the wisdom of those teachers who developed and presented systems of growth and change as Yoga, meditation and related self care practice invite us to begin and remain with self acceptance and forgiveness.
Along the the way our foibles are revealed, resistances encountered, and mistakes, successes and failure appear as part of the journey. A foundation of increasing self acceptance and healthy self love can keep us on the path we have chosen more faithfully.
Here is where the simple formulation of this is the three A’s of healthy change come into the process. These are
Awareness of what is in the moment with out identifying with our usual attitudes and judgements. It allows us see ourselves and our situation from a new overview that may reveal new insight and perspective. As Lao Tze asks above: “…Can you step back from your own mind, and thus understand all things?…”
Acceptance is an allowing awareness of all that is revealed. Judgements—liking and not liking—can immediate narrow our focus and may reinforce or draw us back into old patterns of self denigration, separation and the resulting struggles and distress.
Adjustment in our course. The shift in what think feel and do that springs from the newer and wiser perspective.
This approach may seem scary, confusing, or couterintuitive at first. Yet it reveals the paradox of healthy change, that when we become ourselves most fully, let go of struggle and striving is just the time when we may be able to access something new that can take that next step forward toward what we are seeking.
Implicit in all this is an understanding that when we are on a path toward something that support our lives and wellbeing we have within us the means to attain that which we seek.
With the responsibility for your journey to healthful change now squarely on yourself you can now, in the words of Rumi allow you to “be drawn by the strange pull of what you love.”.